Mother’s Day is complicated.
I am a mother: bio, foster, adoptive. I have an amazing mother…by legal paper. I was birthed by a mother that started with good intentions. I lived in the foster care system with many temporary mothers.
I have so much to be thankful for, and I genuinely am!
But Mother’s Day is a heavy load.
As I skim through social media, check ins, and friend-hellos, I see so many beautiful photos of mama’s and mentors. Yet, as often as I see those, I also see many expressions of heavy emotions.
· I grieve for longing women who wished to be called one.
· I emphasize with yearning hearts that desire the cliché one.
· I breath for angry faces of lives that deserved one.
· I see exhausted tones from those who try (or tried) to be one.
· I feel grieving tears from those who’ve lost one.
· I relate to the mixed emotions of guilt from those who are one.
· I hear tired tones from those who care for one.
I see the self-inflected pressures of accepting a “holiday” day that raises emotions that carry no words.
This year, don’t carry the weight of Mother’s Day alone!
· Go with a friend on a beautiful outside, adventure.
· Write a letter to someone you care about (or yourself).
· Reserve a “mother’s day special” for yourself.
· Turn off your social media.
· Spend time with special people, animals, friends in your life.
· Watch a comedy or read a book.
· Explore a new place in person or virtual.
· Set 2 new short-term and 2 long-term goals for yourself.
· Be confident in saying “no” or “yes” to what you want to do.
Remember that though “mother” is a noun the love they show is an action.
Act in love.
Love one another.
Love through mother’s day.
“A woman who honors the Lord deserves to be praised…” Proverbs 31:30-31
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